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Default 12-07-2009, 10:01 AM

Why marry in the first place? What's the point of being pegged down anyway? Isn't being good friends just enough? Marriage is about a good relationship. All relationships don't have to end up in the shape of marriage! No?
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Default 12-08-2009, 03:33 AM

I'm not a fan of arranged marriages. It's like taking away one's freedom. If my parents put me in an arranged marriage, I would probably run away. I'm sometimes surprised that some of these arranged marriages actually work out. But are they even in love? Probably not. It's all about obeying their parents. They're probably just civilized with each other for that sake.
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Default 12-09-2009, 09:06 PM

Arranged marriages have been the main type of marriages that occur in my country, they are going well till date but there are many modifications happening, slowly they'll disappear i think
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Default 12-15-2009, 10:48 PM

Arranged marriage is not all about parents meeting and deciding that their son or daughter should marry the other family's son or daughter. It might happen in remote villages but not in towns and cities.

If, after visiting a girl's place, the parents feel that the girl is ok, the son is asked to visit and see the girl at least once. If the son says also ok, then marriage is sure. In the meantime, the girl's side will also visit the future son-in-law's place to see and know more about them.

In case the son doesn't like the girl, then his parents can look for another girl and so on. So, I think this is ok.

As for people who says that one must marry someone whom he or she loves, I have no problem with that but the reality is that there are less divorce cases in India than in western and developed countries. I would love to know how many men and women have married and divorced several times in their lives in such countries.

Before ending, I would like to add that after arranged marriage, the husband and wife start loving each other as they realize that they have to live with each other for the rest of their lives.
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Default 12-16-2009, 04:48 AM

I think it is wrong, because it's not true love.
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Default 12-16-2009, 11:43 AM

I hate these, you can't have a true love.
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Default 12-16-2009, 09:44 PM

Huummm, I am not against it but I think Love marriage is better then the arrange one. There are certain thoughts I can put over it.
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In love marriage the decision is take by the two only who are getting married.
Love makes the Man (I can't elaborate about women, as i am not woman) very matured, sincere, and above all Calm. Personnel exp inspires me to write.
Love marriage is test of human that how dedicatly he/she respects and obey the decision taken by theme selves. As I personally believes, that if you will not respect your decision, no one else will do.

And above all if due to some misfortune the marriage is not going successful, the repenting will lay on the couple only.
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Default 12-23-2009, 06:19 PM

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in some culture, it is practice for them where the parents will come in agreement with other parents for their children to marry when they get older. so they plan this while their children were still kids and young like 5 or 6. so by the time they reach like 18 years of age the kids have no choice but to obey their parents. specially those kind of kids were not put into proper schooling. so they instead obey their parents what ever their parents tell them to.
that idea is not obsolete especially for Chinese. My parents would want my marriage arrange. Its needed for business. although im against it. I cant do anything.
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Default 01-01-2010, 06:58 PM

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that idea is not obsolete especially for Chinese. My parents would want my marriage arrange. Its needed for business. although im against it. I cant do anything.
Ya same in my culture, when it comes to matters of business and matters of dowry, arranged marriages play a big role.
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Default 01-02-2010, 04:03 PM

I dont agree with this at all. You should be able to pick who you love and want to marry.
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Default 01-11-2010, 01:15 AM

according to census arranged marriage got along pretty well,but i'm against it you have the right to pick the right partner to share your lifetime of course
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