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Default Arranged Marriages? are you against it? - 12-03-2009, 07:08 AM

in some culture, it is practice for them where the parents will come in agreement with other parents for their children to marry when they get older. so they plan this while their children were still kids and young like 5 or 6. so by the time they reach like 18 years of age the kids have no choice but to obey their parents. specially those kind of kids were not put into proper schooling. so they instead obey their parents what ever their parents tell them to.
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Default 12-03-2009, 09:17 AM

I don't like parents intervention in this. is there something lack in that person that he searches for girl with parent's permission ? i hate those culture followers. hunt for girl in natural way.
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Default 12-03-2009, 09:35 AM

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I don't like parents intervention in this. is there something lack in that person that he searches for girl with parent's permission ? i hate those culture followers. hunt for girl in natural way.
no that is the way it some remote parts of the country where the people are poor and so they live the old fashioned way. like they want to make sure that their children will end up with some one who can take care of them or love them so they choose the kid with a good parents who have some kind of way to earn like if they own some farms for them to earn a living and feed their family.
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Default 12-03-2009, 10:22 AM

I don't think it's correct. In my point of view, you should marry with someone you really love, don't need your parent's intervention.
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I don't think it's correct. In my point of view, you should marry with someone you really love, don't need your parent's intervention.
i guess some people agree with what their parents decide on cause they are not sure with their own decisions or judgment and so they leave it to their parents to make decisions themselves specially if they are still too young to marry.
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Default 12-03-2009, 07:48 PM

No matter what the purpose of parents are in the children are very young, put their children's future determined, it is irresponsible. I am firmly opposed.
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Default 12-03-2009, 08:01 PM

I am very against about that.. How you could marry with someone you dont love? That its very stupid, Maybe the parents wants their childrens to have future but no like this..
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Default 12-03-2009, 11:15 PM

men will not complain if he is paired with a super hot chick..that wont be difficult to love.LOL.but marriage is not all about sex alone.things get worse when you guys cannot get along with the decision making. will even tually break up!
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Default 12-03-2009, 11:26 PM

Well I guess arrange marriage is an old practice and is seldom practice in many countries right now. I think the country that practices that still is India as far as I know. I do believe that when it comes to marriage it should be the person who should choose who he likes to marry and the parents must not interfere but respect their child's choice.
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I am very against about that.. How you could marry with someone you dont love? That its very stupid, Maybe the parents wants their childrens to have future but no like this..
yes it is all about assuring the future of the children so that they will have a good life specially when the parents can not give them a good life for them. it is like to make sure they will be so poor in life.
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Default 12-04-2009, 01:12 AM

I'm against it, you should choose who you want to be with, not someone pick who you have to be with.
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Default 12-04-2009, 05:46 AM

I'm against it. You don't want to be put with someone you'll hate for the rest of your life. You should marry someone you find yourself and love.
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Default 12-04-2009, 06:27 AM

This girl in my class does something like that. I don't think her parents are doing it, but in her culture once you get your period, no matter how old you are, you're supposed to get married.

I like choosing who to marry but it's their culture so i can't say anything.
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Default 12-04-2009, 06:27 AM

Yes, i believe you are supposed to search and find your true lover, not be appointed one by your ignorant parents.
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Default 12-05-2009, 05:48 PM

I think arranged marriages could be really wonderful and in the olden =days in my country they used to do that. In Greece that is. As long as both parties have a say in the marriage then it is o.k They shouldn't be FORCED into a marriage. They must at least like each other. Whether a love marriage or arranged..after marriage you HAVE to work at the relationship..Love grows slowly either way..
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Default 12-05-2009, 06:52 PM

Neither for it or against it. If the children love one another then why shouldn't they obey their parents, in most cases they will end up loving one another.
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Default 12-06-2009, 01:18 AM

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I think arranged marriages could be really wonderful and in the olden =days in my country they used to do that. In Greece that is. As long as both parties have a say in the marriage then it is o.k They shouldn't be FORCED into a marriage. They must at least like each other. Whether a love marriage or arranged..after marriage you HAVE to work at the relationship..Love grows slowly either way..
well i think that it is not arranged marriage any more. cause they are given the choice to marry or not. so it does not fall into that category as arranged marriages. but more like a set up and see if they will like each other if they do then it is they will be married.
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Default 12-06-2009, 01:24 AM

I dont like arranged marrage It is not right to force someone into an unwilling marriage.
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Default 12-07-2009, 09:34 AM

I'm not really against them as long as I'm in love with the other person. :P
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Default 12-07-2009, 09:49 AM

I don't think they really work out to be totally honest...
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